Free Literature Review On Proposing Courtship
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“Proposing Courtship,” by Amy A. Kass and Leon R. Kass is a fresh and interesting look on improving relationships new and old. Most interesting is the essence of the article suggests couples looking to conserve their relationships look to what worked for couples of yesterday, formulating models from years past. Essentially, Kass and Kass recommend men and women begin courting one another again, rather than continuing the haphazard dating rituals that are becoming habitual for today’s time. The authors cite there is not specific or positive instruction for how to teach one another when we are interested in one another romantically, therefore, there is no specific or positive way to treat one another throughout a relationship. “Proposing Courtship,” attempts to remedy this folly by proposing regulations and offering potentially positive outcomes to the regulations.
Throughout the article, the authors also stress men and women should learn not only how to court, but how to court the opposite sex. It is one thing to relearn the process of courting, but understanding men and women, as well as how they respond to certain things, is quite another. Using Maria and Pamphilius as examples in a play, they show men want a relative challenge when pursuing a woman. Though they like a challenge, Maria is also used as a device to show men also like to have their affections returned, though not so much so that they feel emasculated. Its a delicate balance women must learn, but when done correctly, men are left feeling interested and prepared to win the undying affection of their chosen female. Courtship, when performed correctly, can end in a solid and happy relationship, which is the point of the authors. Many methods attempted by people today do not end this way, but the courtship of generations past have regimented methods relying on response from gender to gender, used to enhance their interest and ensure the relationship’s longevity.
In sum, the authors wish to implore men to act as men, and women to act as women. Throughout the article, they remind women their chastity, as well as their power of femininity is not a liability, but rather an asset when attracting a partner. Moreover, they remind men that dehumanizing women is not attractive, and any women who respond to these tactics are not women one should be consorting with. Old methods of courtship were based on the genders acting upon their full potential, and asking the most of each other. Selecting a partner that asked the most of you, and pushed you to be your best, while still respecting you as an individual is, essentially, what the authors’ proposal of courtship appears to be. “Proposing Courtship,” is a brief description of how we must begin asking this of one another in order to ensure the longevity of our future relationships, as well as our happiness with our chosen partners.